As the Valentine season approaches, we see the small, multi-colored candies known as “conversation hearts” appear in stores again. They read, “Be Mine,” “I Love You,” or “Thinking of You.” These messages are simple and sometimes silly, but they represent the magic we experience when we are connected to a loved one. Often, that connection is hard to feel over long distances, such as that which may separate you from your student. Your children may not realize how important it is for them to hear from family; they probably won’t tell you. Admitting that they still need you seems to conflict with their need for independence. However, it is still important to hear from you, especially to hear what is happening at home, in the family, and in the neighborhood.

Some parents claim that they have nothing interesting to write about, especially those who speak to their children regularly on the phone. But letters, cards, and e-mail messages communicate something more than the actual facts and events they describe. Hearing about the routine comings and goings of brothers and sisters, neighbors, and friends provides a sense of permanence and familiarity to a tenuous time. Just letting your student know that someone is thinking of him or her can provide an amazing amount of security.

Many students keep the cards that they receive, rereading them to give a boost to a wounded ego and to reassure them that they are not forgotten. Other simple yet meaningful messages could include clippings from the local paper, the Sunday sports pages, or an appropriate comic strip with a brief note attached. No matter when or what size, students rave about care packages, holiday cards, and surprise gifts. There are innumerable ways to stay in touch and to let your child know he or she is on your mind. We encourage you to do so during this season of love.

Blessings,
Tim & Barb Hubbell
Presidents, Parent Council
Proud Parents of Katie Cook '08